The ABCs of Emotional Mastery | Mind Health Webinar

Learn about the wisdom of emotions and why they matter for your health, vitality and well-being with Dr Joanna Charlton, PhD.Unexpressed emotions create suffering internally and externally, creating pain, dis-ease and bad relationships and the majority of us have never learned how to actually feel our emotions in a healthy manner. Following this webinar, you’ll never see or feel your emotions in the same way again!
  • Understand the importance of ‘healthy expression’ of emotions for your health and wellbeing.
  • Discover why your emotions contain deep wisdom and can be the key to unlocking our innate health, vitality and well-being.
  • Start to learn to accept, validate and have compassion for your emotions and others, including your kids.
  • Learn practical steps on how to feel a feeling easier, without overwhelm, and clear it faster to heal.
  • Learn 2 simple and effective tools for emotional awareness to soothe your body in times of emotional stress.

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So we’ll welcome everybody to the World Council for Health Mind Health Connection Room. We are very happy to have Dr. Joanna Charlton with us today, and she will be talking about the ABCs of emotional mastery. Dr. Charlton has a PhD and has been a holistic health practitioner for 25 years, bridging science with spirituality, mind, body, and emotions. She’s a mind-body pain specialist, double-certified holistic life coach, and also a neuro-linguistic programming and positive intelligence practitioner, and has a PhD in immunology. So, wow, what a great set of credentials. Thank you so much. so welcome everybody thank you so much for joining us here today um it is a pleasure to be here first of all and a pleasure to be collaborating and working with the world council for health um if you want to just put my slides emma there you go thank you so much so yes the title of my talk is Let me just make it big screen for me so I can see and then I can press here. Is that right, Emma? I think that’s right to make it the big screen. So the title of my talk is ABCs of Emotional Mastery for a healthier and a happier life because this is such an important moment in our life and the crisis that’s happening in this world at the moment. And I think it’s the most important thing that we actually just take a couple of deep breaths just to land while we’re landing, while people are coming in as well. So if you can just bring yourself back to your body, just so you can put your hands on your heart if you want, and take a couple of deep breaths just so you can ground yourself. This is what’s called grounding, bringing ourself back to the present moment. the present in the moment, the gift. I think if I make the screen bigger, I’m not sure how to make it go full screen. So just take a couple of deep breaths. Start slideshow. Normally it works here. Something to be working. Strange, it’s completely frozen. So, exit full screen. Emma, it doesn’t seem to be working. I’m not quite sure why. Sorry about this, guys. Hang on a minute. Thanks, Emma. So even more of a moment just to breathe and take a couple of deep breaths while we’re landing here. So I’m going to be talking about basically the power of emotions and how we can actually learn how to master them so that we can have a better life and healthier life. So I have had a very big journey of emotions. I was… very dysregulated and had many chronic pain. I had chronic pain for about 25 years and I was very emotionally unaware and unable to regulate my emotions. I had a lot of stress throughout my process of working in science and Basically, hang on a minute, where is the presentation gone? Looks like it’s still shared on your end. End the screen share. Okay, I’ll stop screen share. Share screen. Is that better? There we go. Yay. Okay. So sorry about that, guys. So a little bit about me. I’m originally from the UK. I grew up in a spiritual community. So this is why I’m combining science and spirituality because I was actually brought up. This is me in India, the little girl in the front. um can everybody hear me and see me because I just need to check that first uh I think so um yeah so this is a little girl in the front and she she uh out she’s you know this one here basically and um I was This was in India, New Delhi. So I was brought up in the spiritual community, but I rejected spirituality completely and went to study immunology and did a master’s and a PhD in immunology, basically. And during that time, I was also working for the R&D, and I decided that I couldn’t either focus on the R&D, the research and development anymore, because it was no longer in line with me and myself. with the spirituality in science. So eventually I got to the point where I could actually combine the two together. Through the chronic pain and the 18 symptoms of mind-body syndrome that I had for the majority of my adult life, I was forced, catalyzed, to actually get to a point where I could start to feel my body and feel my emotions in my body. And this was a powerful moment to start to heal my chronic symptoms and the 18 different symptoms that I had. For example, irritable bowel syndrome, indigestion and various other symptoms that I just, you know, were all mind bodies related. So eventually I got to the point where I could start to heal. find the the soothing tools that have really helped me to overcome these symptoms of chronic pain and mind-body issues right that I had that this is actually the majority of most people that most people have. 95% apparently of the conditions that we have right now are mind-body syndrome orientated, which means that it’s stress-related disorders, right? So… I want to change my slides. I don’t know how to do it. Hang on a second. If I go here, does that change? Yes. Does that change? It’s not going to work. There we go. Okay, so what we’re going to cover in this webinar today is do emotions have wisdom or are they just really annoying and frustrating? Is there… understanding we understand why our emotions are so hard to control and deal with over this webinar we’re going to discover why it’s important to shift our low vibrational emotions and we’re going to start to build acceptance and compassion for your for ourselves for yourselves and for your emotions And we need to understand why we must feel in order to heal because this is the majority of the inner work that we have to do in order to create the healing because this is where it starts, the inside world, right? So learning the ABCs of clearing an emotion, which I’m going to give you today, one tool that has revolutioned my world, changed my world and my clients because it just helps soothe and regulate. in a way that I has never um no other tool has done that before me before so what are emotions let me just take a sip so what are emotions you can see the woman here she’s uh there’s a lot of storm going on emotions are energy in motion so taking from the word energy in motion everything is energy as Einstein said and emotions are the life force behind everything that we experience our decisions our actions and our or our reactions because most of our well most of the time we’re actually in reaction mode which is I’m going to go into in a little bit as well a little bit more depth Because of our programming. So emotions either can be in low or high vibration, of course, all the spectrum in between. And I like to expand, you know, simplify this and they can either be expanding emotions or contracting emotions. And this is a very helpful tool and way to think about them because then you can always ask yourself, am I expansive, feeling expansive now, or am I contracting? And that is a very good gauge, and I’ll show you why that’s important in a minute. Emotions are the consciousness that we experience in the sense that it’s connection between the mind and the body. um the thoughts that we feel that the thoughts that we think are the language of the mind and our emotions are the language of the body and basically gives us our bad body sense it gives us the sense of what we’re thinking So this is a really important piece of information, and hopefully this will just make the light bulb go off because we don’t know our thinking unless we actually feel it, right? Most of the time, right? Most of the time, if you’re unaware, like most of us are running through life, 95% of our life is spent in our subconscious mind, so we’re just running on programs, then we don’t really know what we’re thinking, so our emotions are actually… the kind of inner guide right and of course there’s our barometer the emotions are the barometer of our internal weather showing us our thinking feeling state and very importantly their indication of the current lens that we experience the world on reality through and is our internal guidance system back to love or back to expansion, openness and light, which is what we are, right? Beings of light and love. So, and they also have obviously a wisdom behind the emotions, which I’m gonna show you why, because they help us release past triggers and heal them basically, which is really, really important. So here we have just a very beautiful and simple diagram that I really, really like. You see the two scale, the two spectrums. You have a spiral going up and we have a spiral going down. And the upward spiral shows power and strength. And above the line of integrity, you know, we have uprising emotions and vibrations because everything, every emotion, it is actually a vibration. It gives a vibration to our body and it gives, it really vibrates to the outside world as well. So the line of integrity here is quite important. Just keep that in mind when we move through this webinar. And then we have the lower vibrational motions, which are cycling downwards so that we can see the frustration, the worry, the anger, the guilt. All of these emotions are actually downward spiraling. they take our life force and they weaken our body. So when we have these negative emotions, you know, we have to understand that it’s having a physiological effect on our body, a massive physiological effect on our body. And of course, occasional, sometimes emotions, you know, negative emotions, obviously, we need to feel them to clear them. But we’re talking more about chronic um expression of guilt or chronic chronic anger really does affect um our physiological state it drives the um sympathetic nervous system with a fight flight freeze response and basically shuts down all non-essential body functions so the gut and reproductive reproductive system and all these things so that we’re unable to actually function properly right And we have to remember that there’s the feedback loop between the emotions and the thinking. So the emotions guide the thinking. When we’re in a low vibrational, for example, emotion like anger, all our thinking because it’s the lens that we actually observe and see the world through all our thinking is going to be geared up towards or you know with anger um behind it so then and that that anger then goes thinking strives uh negative emotions even more which is why the negative spiral down is uh causing like a negative feedback loop for more worth uh you know, more low vibrational feelings and emotions while the upward spiral is bringing the vibration higher because then the emotions you have new thinking you have more help hope you know helpful thinking you’re more expanded you have um you have an openness to life and the situation that you’re having and experiencing you’re feeling more positive so your thinking is more positive you’re feeling you know what I mean so it’s like a feedback feedback loop but it goes in both directions right so we can always have this in mind when we’re trying to um just ex right soothe and regulate our emotions basically this open contracted sympathetic parasympathetic nervous system response is really really um clear So emotions and culture and childhood. This is really, really powerful because it’s really, it’s basically what we were, you know, we’re never taught how to experience our emotions. We’re never showed how to, I unfortunately learned soothing techniques, emotional soothing techniques in my 30, 35. I think I was 38. So in, you know, I have gone through life know basically just you know with a sorry show or an emotional totally dysregulated suppression all these emotions this is why the you know my the chronic pain that I had was really amplified with these rage um these expressions of anger that I just couldn’t deal with and and we have to realize that we actually just program just like everything else we’re never programmed to experience our emotions where our emotions are considered bad and unsafe because of the way our parents, unless we have very aware parents, dealt with their emotions, right? So there’s lots of emotions flying around and they are unable to ground them and to regulate them and send them know to to actually allow the emotion the um the energy in motion to move through them and so this means that children get you know stuck in the crossfire and we never get actually you know a good model of how to feel our emotions um and so we’re never shown the process of feeling an emotion to completion to clearing which you know obviously means that we don’t have ways to do it right are not shown and not told and we’re not told at school or anywhere else this is a really big problem so um we’re also told not to be angry we’re not told not to be sad you know so emotions are not encouraged and um don’t be scared don’t be angry don’t be sad and even don’t be too excited so I was always the child who was very excited and very exuberant and I was called yo-yo as a child joe joe joe yo-yo and so my um know my experience was that I was always pushed down and put into a smaller place to fit and I was never you know I had this feeling sensation that I was over over I was always too much you know it was too this too sensitive too emotional to this to whatever so that just remember that when we get overexcited or you know over exuberant is also kind of taboo in our society um so we hope that we get they get pushed basically down the basement of our psyche we’re not allowed to be angry we’re not allowed to be sad we’re not allowed to be too much too exuberant and so what happens is then the emotions get covered as danger um as dangerous in our system and because we are get you know we’re terrified of fear of rejection um being cast out and it’s actually coded as death I mean in our nervous system right so because in the old times if you did get cast out you would die in the savannah So this is really, really important as well, is that we always get the question, we got the question, sorry, during our childhood, why are you feeling sad? Why are you feeling angry? Rather than the question where? So this led us to always kind of escape hatch into the thinking mind and leaving the emotion like literally severed and so therefore it gets stuck in our you know vital organs and our bodies and our tissues because we’re literally just we’re hijacked we just get out of the emotion because it’s so difficult as well we’re not told how to experience them and we get asked the why so the where gets left behind and if we can just ask the question where am I feeling this emotion In my body, it becomes, it comes, you come back to yourself, you come back to the present moment. And you can actually just expand that emotion up and out to release it, right? Because it’s emotion, it’s an emotion, it’s an energy emotion to actually be released up and out. And I’m going to show you how to do that today. um and we’re also taught with another big no-no or big problem area is that we’re taught to be victims of our emotions that somebody or you made me feel x y and z you know we say all the time you made me feel um angry you made me feel sad um and so we’re taught to be victims we’re we’re not actually empowered to realize these emotions are natural and an important experience of life and you know that we can actually empower ourselves to take responsibility for them and the soothing and regulation of these of our emotions is a ninja move and in fact you know and what’s the word a hallmark of adulthood I would suggest um so triggers uh sorry emotions also re-trigger us they take us back in time when we get re-triggered we get back into the you know the the childlike state that we were in when we first experienced those emotions so it’s like time traveling back in time which is why I said it’s really important to heal feel to heal emotional suffering causes a lot of internal stress because we’re literally trying to press in and down and these you know this the stress of emotions is now called the silent clear because it really is such an important um you know problem with my body syndrome and stress related diseases and disorders because it’s um the emotional suffering the lack of ability to experience our emotions has um caused us to repress suppress um the body becomes um depressed as we press in these emotions and press down and dis-ease because their vital energy, the vital energies of our bodies are unable to flow as we try and suppress and hold in all of those experiences, all those emotions that we just don’t want to experience, right? So I hope that’s given you an understanding and a kind of background so that we can actually really see that our emotions are actually not really really bad thing they’re actually a really good thing in the sense that they can really really help us understand like I said they are the the internal guidance system and it’s never too late to learn how to soothe and regulate so with saying that let’s just take a couple of deep breaths and get into the actual practice here I can’t see any comments or any If you have any comments or questions, please go ahead. I’m here. Okay, great. Just reading the comments. So this is a really beautiful ABC of self-soothing and regulating tool that I use all the time. It’s my go-to tool. um I’m just wondering how people are actually uh perceiving this are they finding it too uh you know this might be something they do every single day themselves so if you if that’s the case then you know that’s great because we can you know it’s we’re trying to more we have to model for everybody how we experience reality and how we actually can you know soothe and regulate our emotions not only to our family members but our children and you know co-workers and everybody else so this abc so soothing is a really simple technique all you have to do is just so the a I’m just going to just tell you what I’m and then I’ll guide you through it so the a is the awareness so once you actually get into your body you just become aware and I’ll ask you to calibrate how you’re actually feeling so you can put it in the chat if you want how you actually feel um And then we’re going to do a couple of deep breaths. So the breath, you know, everyone knows about, hopefully knows about breath work, but the breath is so, so important to bringing us back to the present moment and taking us out because normally what, as I said before, The escape hatch is the why, is the thoughts behind the emotions. So if we can actually stay in the body and stay in the emotion, in the energy, in the emotion of the movement of this emotion, then we can actually release it much faster without all the suffering behind the whys and who dids and why, you know, the reasoning, the logic. So then I’ll ask you to breathe a few times. and then the third part is the choice the c a b c choice which really just is basically you can just choose to soften for example I put that as an ex as an example you can just choose to bring your shoulders down you can just choose to um once you’re ready you know once you’re you’re out of the fight, flight, freeze response because it takes, with a few breaths, it just takes us back to the parasympathetic or the rest, digest and rejuvenate. So we now have an expansion experience again and we can actually make a choice. So that’s a really important step. So we can just choose to take, you know, to ease our body, for example, or to be in ease during this process of, you know, of emotional experience. And then what I suggest as well, Alex suggests that you do is you expand the emotion. So you get tuned into your body where it is in your body. and then you expand the motion up and out or down if you prefer the grounding way the root chakra down to through the ground into the ground earth from recycling or if you want out through your breath or if you prefer out through the top of your head so what I want you to do is try and just expand the feeling rather than trying to keep the feeling contracted into your body and I hope that’s clear um so let’s take a couple of deep breaths and I just want you to imagine just re remember a moment today or yesterday that triggered you and you had some form some emotions that arose and try not let’s not make it a 10 out of 10 or an 8 out of 10 because we’re enough in this you know environment try and you know a 5 out of 10 um emotional surge or uncomfortable uncomfortable um you can write in the chat what it was the emotion and how much out of 10 it was if you if you want um and while you’re going through the process I just want you to just feel and then you can see how you actually how it’s come out you’ve asked you to calibrate again so you can see how much has come down and you know be it you know you can’t do this wrong basically it’s your experience or it’s completely subjective to you. And so don’t have too much thoughts about, am I doing this right or doing this wrong? I want you to just have an embodied experience of this so you can actually see how it works. Great. So take a couple of deep breaths while we just, again, center into our bodies. So just remember the trigger. The trigger is the thing that caused you to feel emotions. you can close your eyes if you want you can place your hands on the part of your body where you may be feeling the tightness or with the awareness now we’re bringing awareness into our body so we want to bring in a sense of where is this feeling in my body right now right where is it in my body what does it feel like is it feeling tight does it feel contracted You can name the emotion if that’s helpful. If not, you can just stay with the actual sensations of that emotion. So fear, for example, you might be having a racing heart. You may be feeling some uncomfortable butterflies in your stomach. Anger, I usually have it in my jaw. I usually clench my teeth with anger. So you’ll start to notice, once you do this a while, that you can actually start mapping your emotions and your body, and you usually find that they’re in the same place. So just bring some more awareness. See if there’s any color to the emotion or the place in your body where you’re having the sensation. Is there any color there? Maybe it’s some darkness. Maybe it’s just some… grayness and just see if you can use any describing words as well for example if it’s tight or um prickly or you know there’s a ball-sized shape um sized dark you know place or whatever you know there’s you can use analogies but anything to keep you just focused on that emotion just for the moment to bring awareness and stay with that sensation This is really courageous work. So just be really conscious of that and really compassionate to yourself. And now just notice what happens when you just breathe into that area. So just take three really beautiful long inhaled belly breaths. So breathing into your right into your belly. And all it takes is three, but we can do four or five. And the more, the better, really. But three really just shifts an emotion really quite fast. So just breathe a couple of more deep, beautiful breaths into that area. And again, we’re just bringing this expansion and softness, the feeling of this expansion and softness there. You can just bring your shoulders down a little bit. You can expand your spine. And now just notice what choice you would like to make. So maybe there’s a choice of just, I want to choose to be more, at ease I want to soften and just notice that the choice gives you empowerment gives you a feeling that you can actually do something about this because often we feel that we’re so hijacked by an emotion we just don’t have any choice whatsoever so that just just gives you that opportunity that’s mini opening. And again, this doesn’t have to be 100%. It can be a 2% shift. It can be a 5% shift or a 25% shift. The point is that when we shift from the stress response of the sympathetic nervous system in the low vibrational emotions that are driving us down, the shift um happens and we’re already starting to move up and I’m going to go into that a little bit more so just take a couple of more expanding breaths and just see if you can try and send the emotion up and out I usually just like at least just imagine breathing in and just expanding that breath up and out I like to use the breath and so the emotion is coming out of me I’m taking up space in the room it’s a visualization it doesn’t it’s just intention actually so this really helps to soothe the nervous system regulate and soften the body so just tune in again to your sensations in your body and now calibrate it so notice the the shift that might have happened hopefully for you from the trigger moment of feeling the emotion bringing back the emotion to the actual uh feeling that you’re having the feeling of softness that you’re having an expansion that you’re having now so you can put it in the chat if you want the before and after number the calibration before the calibration after this this uh soothing tool So this is the ABC and I use ABCs and you can have the expansion as just as a choice, a soften and expand or any other choice that you want. So let’s just move on. When you’re ready, you can just open your eyes and come back to the webinar. So let me know how that was for you. Let me know how you feel about that. so this is um might be a bit of a complicated slide but I really wanted to add it in because it’s just such an important um it’s the extension of the spiral the spiral up and spiral down right the spiraling up the emotions in the green and blue and purple are they up with spiraling motions this is work from david hawkins one of my heroes um and then the downward spiral is the orange and into red so you can see even if you hopefully you can see the the um the scale here right the the uh the picture okay so I use this as a ladder right it’s a map of consciousness consciousness he calls it but I use it as a ladder because it’s really helpful When we’re in shame, for example, which is the lowest vibration, if you can see right down the bottom, it’s like 20 on the scale. It’s a logarithmic scale, but it’s 20. It’s the vibration that is admitted when we’re having shame. We are then moving up, you know, then there are other emotions like low vibrational emotions, but for example, the fear is at 100, right? And the anger is at 150. so we know that when we’re in shame it’s the lowest uh vibration and very very weakening of the life force and going down it’s one of the work you know the most difficult You know, we live in a conditioned and shame-based society, unfortunately. So shame is a really important one to clear because it literally will deaden you and your body and your vital energies. So shame and guilt, 30. But when you notice that you get to an anger state, for example, Anger is actually more vibrational. It’s more vibrational energy. It gets you into motion. It gets you into movement. So when we’re noticing that, we can start to see that we’re climbing up the ladder. And so it gives us verification and validation that it’s actually okay, which is, for me, really important when I went through my I don’t want to be an angry, I’m a nice girl kind of moment. And I think that if I don’t actually move this anger, this rage that I’ve been feeling since my childhood, then the chronic illnesses and chronic symptoms that I have will not shift. And so it was a really, really important moment. And then I realized also that anger is also really important part of this shifting, right? We actually get you into motion, right? And just notice the line, the dotted line as well, which is the line of integrity I was talking about in the previous slide, which is basically you get from anger and pride and you go to courage and neutrality. So when we can get to neutrality or even courage, we’re on the way up, guys. This is really important to get. So when we are on the way up, which means that the spiral that is taking us, the winds of change are here and the spiral that’s taking us up, to a higher vibration than we’re thinking you know high vibrational thoughts and that’s making us feel higher vibrational emotions and so we can step basically the point is that we can get to at any point we can get to a state of acceptance like courage uh willingness all those you know in the green we can get there if by doing the abcs basically right it just shifts you into that state because you’re now willing to experience you’re willing to make a choice to soften you know so that’s why what I mean by the experience being so vital for any for a shift to actually happen and you don’t have to get to joy you don’t have to get to peace you don’t have to get to gratitude you can obviously there are lots of things you can do to do that but all you actually need to get to is a state of you know first courage and then kind of neutrality or like willingness to experience these feelings and with more and more tools you can actually find you can actually do this easier and easier, and it gets easier and easier to do as well. So is there any comments or information that I need to look at in the chat? I’m just checking. So I think this is my last slide. um oh it’s my previous yeah so basically we need to just start taking responsibility for our health right we need to start to actually um this is really strange I don’t know this platform very well and it’s very frustrating I have to go to my um slideshow to get it started again oh yeah sorry okay uh yeah first steps to improve your health and well-being is that we have to take responsibility right so we have to stop being in this that um what I said about the victim mode or we have to start realizing that life’s happening for us this consciousness rather than right life’s happening to me and start taking responsibility by learning soothing tools don’t make emotions bad or wrong which is really important being in this willing accepting state is above the line of integrity so we can literally start to just soar um soar in the sense of height And we only need 2% like literally we need that’s enough to shift that experience. Something I really help my clients is the building habits that heal. So if we can change the micro habits that we have in our lives, it will literally change our health and it will change our lives, which is really, really important. Raise your vibrations as often as possible. And that can just be a check in an ABC. Just to know how you’re feeling. Just ask yourself, what is it that I’m feeling right now? Where is it that I’m feeling it right? Not the why. And do things that you love to create a high vibrational state, music, playing with family, kids, going on walks, obviously. And also being part of or create your own group of growth-oriented people who hold you lovingly accountable to grow, which is of course the university’s greatest desire, is the expansion. And this is just a slide to show you that the ABCs is one tool. There are many tools. You can check them out on YouTube. The ones that I use are here. There are obviously many other ones. Breathwork, the box breath I use very often. It helps with my daughter as well. where you just breathe four by four by four by four and it’s a really helpful breath work tool mindfulness practices meditation things like that everything that brings us back to the present moment I’m just giving you these tools because you know you don’t know what you don’t know right so if you don’t know that they’re tools to soothe then you don’t know where to go and look for body scanning and mapping your emotions is really helpful because it catches them upstream. So when you’re feeling like angry about something, if you feel like I said, I have my anger mapped into my jaw, right? So in my throat, So when I feel a slight clenching of my teeth, I know that I’m a three out of 10 angry. And so I can just take a couple of deep breaths and I can before I get to a 10 out of 10, which is much more difficult to shift. But there are other tools that can shift like tapping, EFT tapping, coherence breathing, heart maths is really, really is a beautiful organization tool. um institute that does a lot of research and there’s coherence breathing and heart brain coherence to bring down stress levels they’ve done a lot of research it’s amazing resource they have lots of free stuff that you can go and check it out the tat tapas acupressure technique which is also very helpful I use it a lot and finally for deep trauma um the emdr which is also very very helpful for processing trauma and things like that, that are more deep and more ingrained. So we just have to realize that we can take this into our own hands, we can find simple tools that really do work, that some simple tools that really bring about some you know shifts that can take us to a different um choice and that choice takes us to a different outcome and the outcome obviously you know um it’s really really important um you know to take responsibility for that so um the if anybody’s interested in working on this deeper I have a program which is called the The Mastery of Emotions. And Emma, if you want, you can post it in the chat. website there you go so mastering your emotions I have a program for exactly this tools basically to soothe um and help people regulate and uh overcome mind body chronic illnesses and disorders and to help people to really get to this state of of taking of mastering their emotions and taking their life into their own hands so with that thank you very much for being here This will be open, I think, to discussion or any comments or anything that we need. Hi. So thank you, Joanna. Much, much appreciated. I think one of the first things that I noticed, and again, this is my own subconscious programming, many, many years of it, of going to my head and thinking about things initially and Of course, the first question I have is, why am I feeling like this? I’ve had to do a lot of work. It’s really interesting to say, where are you feeling this? And that has helped me. And, you know, when I work with clients, again, it’s sort of the, I love the way you were talking about noticing what color is it, what texture does it have, and just exploring that so that it sort of releases you from the judgment about it and to actually notice it and say, where are you feeling this? And what is this teaching me? Or what is this trying to say to me? Because… Because I had to reach a point where my body was screaming at me before I started listening. Totally, totally. I think all of us actually get, well, you know, sooner or later get to that point where if we don’t listen to our body, the body says no and goes into, you know, complete shutdown. And so, you know, this is really important that we can start to share this information because literally you don’t know there are tools to regulate yourself. when you don’t know, right? So, you know, there are, it’s a catch 22, we don’t get taught this at school, we don’t get taught this with our parents. And it’s, we’re always in the why and the where. Yeah. Joanna, thank you. I really enjoy. Can you hear me? Okay. Yeah. I really enjoyed that. And it was, I felt like you were giving us a real permission to connect and to not get rid of, but to, as it were, allow the emotion to do its innate job, really. And in many ways, you were a great speaker for the emotions and the role that emotions have in our lives. unfolding I I’m getting a strange echo so I won’t be long but I wondered if you had wanted to say anything about the difference between as it were connecting and allowing versus connecting just to get rid of and I because I think that is a big dynamic for a lot of us so we’re trained to get rid of things and I wondered if you had something you wanted to say about that yeah great question I think it’s really um Exactly. It’s part of our programming on emotions, actually, to get into the state of doing this so that I get rid of But we can really start to see that these emotions are our powerhouse. They’re where our vital energy lives. We don’t have to fear them. I think there’s a lot of fear about feeling an emotion, which is basically where all avoidance behavior comes from. So if we can actually feel the emotion rather than spending the half our life avoiding feeling that emotion, right? It becomes actually the powerhouse to our next decisions, to our next experiences. And there’s really a sense for me now of like cherishing my emotions. I mean, I can’t say that, you know, especially when you’re, I do get, I mean, I still get hijacked by my emotions is that I’ve been doing this work for many years now. but I now I can notice the feeling of wanting to get rid of it and then I just just drop drop in it’s like that is the cue right just go away this anger you know this just go away this sadness is the cue for me to actually okay this now I need to spend some time sitting with this um and feeling it and having this guidance system as well so we just remember realizing that this is a um internal guidance system back to you know it’s given to us by universe god whatever you want to call it source to get back to the feeling of connection with self connection with life connection with like the openness that I’m talking about so the two the two the two um you know pathways right you can take the closed no resistance I don’t want to feel and then or you can take the open you know I’m accepting I’m you know going through this um openness and to towards love towards unity towards you know so it it’s really it starts to become like your yeah, internal guide, you know, the emotions are your internal guidance system back to wholeness, back to oneness, back to this love, you know, vibration, which is all what we, you know, what we’re made of, but we just forget it. we get kind of hijacked, like I said, by the, you know, the brain, the reptilian brain, which is just survival, the survival brain, basically. And again, they have a purpose. It has a purpose. The fear, like I said, I was trying to explain that. I hope that came across, is that the fear or the anger is actually, you know, very inherently important in that experience, in that shifting and in that movement upwards. So, you know, by the fact that I was blocking my anger took that that probably took me much longer much many more years to overcome this chronic pain that I had because I wasn’t able to I wasn’t allowing myself to feel the anger right so that really really helped me understand that there’s there’s a time and a place and um so yeah feeling into it not just to get rid of um but to actually experience the and get the wisdom from the emotion Great question. Any other questions in the chat? I haven’t seen actually. Let me just see. Please let me know. Well, until others come in, Delinda, did you have anything you wanted to ask? I was just, let’s see. Yeah, something came up. I was just going to comment that I really loved the way you spoke about anger, Joanna. because I remember a time, you know, a number of years ago where I had a situation. It was very, very difficult, and I was trying to move past it, shift the relationship with it. And I remember talking to a friend, and, you know, I’m, oh, my fault. Everything that happened is my fault. I’m very kind. I’m very gracious. I’m such a good person. My friend said, you know, if I were you, I’d be a little bit angry. And that gave me the permission to realize how angry I was and how things weren’t appropriate. And that allowed me to see things much more clearly and to move forward. So I really appreciate your talking about anger, saying it’s an important emotion. It really is. It really is. Absolutely. And I got to the point where I was like thanking my, you know, lineage back in time because I was trying to find a way to shift or let’s say reach reframe this anger and I realized that my god these I’m my angry tribes you know from the lineage past my lineage actually have helped me survive and I’m here now because of them you know, they were able to hunt and gather and, you know, get food and firewood and all the things that they need to survive better than someone who wasn’t, you know, was more looking at the roses or something. So that was just something for me, to me, that helped me kind of like get to the point where I was like starting to be accepting of the anger. Yeah, there has a role and we need to be, you know, and obviously not spend too long there. But, you know, we can wallow in the anger a lot as well. But we can get, you know, with this concept of going through, you know, through it to pass through it is really, really, really helpful. And it does take some time. Go ahead. Just bouncing off what you’re saying, Joanna, I think a lot about modern day social media trolling and putting people down and cancelling them. In many ways, that’s just disowned anger, isn’t it? It’s like people are not dealing with their stuff and they’re projecting it out there onto the world. And I think that we’re seeing a lot of that. And I think the acknowledgment and the ownership of anger, and there’s a lot to be angry about, is probably one of the biggest, biggest jobs. I wonder if you have anything to say about, I think people watching this might be, some of them might be feeling like, well, actually, I just feel so scared and overwhelmed by my feelings that I don’t want to connect with them. I’m so frightened of my emotions. I don’t want to even spend your three breaths. I love that it just could actually be done in three breaths. That was absolutely beautiful and spot on, in my opinion. But at the same time, I wonder if you have anything to say to people who want to do this connecting, but they just find that whenever they sit down and start to connect, they feel terrified. And whether you have anything you want to say about that. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, it takes a hell of a lot of courage. It really does. You know, we’re in this fear-based world, a shame-based world, and, you know, anger is definitely a suppression of the sadness and the experience, you know, the fear that we’re having right now. And this collectiveness, collective consciousness as well, right? So for me, it was… it’s like there is no other way right there we really just have in order to step up to our next level selves and actually help to you know So it’s kind of like humanity, you know, striving for humanity, taking the courage to actually do this work is not only beneficial to your life, but it’s going to be beneficial to your children’s lives and your, you know, children’s children. And I really do believe that it also goes, ricochets backwards and forwards and collectively as well, because, you know, as the HeartMath have shown, the expansion of these emotions and thoughts that, you know, uh we have you know literally do um the butterfly effect so it really is a courageous and you know um hero work um and I think that has given that was enough you know go I went to the fridge to eat the chocolate, you know, so many times to avoid the feelings of, you know, while I was starting this process off, you know, like I have to sit down and feel my feelings. You know, I don’t want to go. I really don’t want to sit down and feel my feelings right now. And I would go and eat something and I’d be like, you know, and I just know I’m avoiding, you know. So you would start noticing the patterns of avoidance. And so, right, okay, so how much avoidance am I going to do before I actually just sit down and feel this stuff? And then the release is just so profound as well. You know, the release of this stuff, so you’re working for yourself, but you’re obviously working for humanity as well. It’s just so profound the way that this can happen. shift and change your life and your health in so many different ways. So there is actually one question here, and maybe this is a question to finish up on, but what’s the first thing you should do if you find yourself unable to feel anything at all? ah okay so yeah numbness and numb feelings is also very common um it’s the fight flight freeze response actually it’s the it’s the the the when you just don’t want to you’re you’re in so much fear and you’re just frozen so again numbness um can just be felt like any other emotion actually can start by you know and we don’t again I don’t want to make people fear this process because you can just take a piece you don’t have to do the whole pie you know you just eat a little bit of the pie a little bit of the pizza or whatever you want to call it um of the emotion um so that you can just give that expansion and then you can leave it you don’t have to have the whole thing um so I would say that so just suggest them to stay with that stay with that numbness and just breathe into that as if it’s a feeling notice it where it is in the body and stay out of the story of why I’m feeling numb or why you know because of my my parent you know my childhood or my experiences my childhood or the trauma that I’ve had we stay really in the in the where and the numbness is will soften right get we get to the choice stage and we can say I just want to soften my body um and this would be the best stage you know just treat it like any other emotion really non-assist do you have anything to say about that jerry as well you’re No, I love your passion and your commitment to emotion. And I think the numbing is a really tough one for people. There’s actually research that if you have a hot cup of tea in your hands, the warmth of a hot cup of tea has been shown in research in therapy to transform the outcomes. So all those therapists who think they’re really important have to remember a hot… a cup of tea can make quite a difference I think this numbness is cold and and sometimes just being cozy you know wrap yourself up be in a warm room take a little bit of time and I think I would absolutely endorse everything you said but the only other thing would be to say just keep going because the numbness is an overwhelming habit like you say a program joanna And I think, you know, just make a little time every day, several little moments in the day where you just sit for three minutes. You know, I used to be a school teacher and I used to go out and go into an allotment nearby the school at lunchtime. And I used to just sit there just for 10 minutes. And it just enabled me to kind of just understand what I’m going through in the day at that moment. But persistence and repetition, actually, is a really good thing to do with numbness because it’s kind of a habit as well. It can be overwhelming, but it’s also a habit. Yeah, we can definitely get caught into habits generally, emotions in general. We can get into habits of numbness. you know, sadness or fear or anger or whatever. So definitely there is a habit that can be there, but we just, by sitting with it does help to transform that into the next level, right? So if, but if we just avoid it, then we’re never going to get to the next level and we’re just going to stay in the low vibration. And just to say as well, just in closing, I think that our daily society, our life is so triggering that we absolutely have to have, we’re all, we’re in the default mode of fight, flight, freeze response at the moment. Our nervous system is so triggered, we don’t even know that we’re triggered. That was the massive realization that I had is that, you know, I was so triggered. I didn’t even realize most of the time. So you have to start getting to like slowing down your system so that you can actually start to shift some of this stuff as well. And that takes habit. That takes time. a practice of mindfulness or you know and I have these um what I call discipline routines like you know you can just set your alarm and just say right I’m going to spend just a couple of seconds just a couple of breaths just tuning into myself and asking what I’m feeling right now and this is the one of the beautiful love you know self-love rituals that you can do just to really start to bring in a sense of, and just nurture that experience of, you know, so you start to map where you’re feeling the frustration or the anger or the sadness or the upset or the numbness, right? You start to map it in your body and it becomes easier every time you do it. So on Getter, there is a question about how can I find true meaning in my life when everything happening lately feels so terrible and unchangeable? And I’m wondering if, Joanna, if, again, maybe just noticing how we’re feeling, even if we’re feeling overwhelmed, is the place to start. Yeah. Yeah. um absolutely I mean it is the place to start there is um like I made a list of all you know they’re not all obviously it’s not a comprehensive list um there’s lots of different tools that you can use so if the abc for example that I showed you doesn’t shift or doesn’t work for you there are lots of other ones like tapping or havening is another one that you know the language of touch is generally you know talked about in his webinar, but it’s, you know, just the feeling of your hands on your body soothing, you know, yourself is enough to bring down the stress or the emergency response of the fight, flight, surge response. So, you know, that in itself is enough. I didn’t go into it. Havening was another tool that I had actually to share today, but because of time, it wasn’t possible. But so you can try different tools to see which ones work for you. There can be maybe if you’re feeling angry, like sometimes even just jumping up and just, you know, like what’s the word, flapping your arms really helps to get the anger out with the intention of getting it out and up and out. So the expansion experience, the expanding an emotion out of you is very counterintuitive. We’re told all the time to press it in and not let it out, right? That vibration, that emotion, the energy in motion is staying inside your body and creating disease in your body. So we have to move out. And so we can find any way that gets, you know, being active, if that helps, is another way of getting out. um getting it all out I mean I yeah the situation in the world right now is a big obviously a big topic that we want to get into the end of this webinar but um I personally feel like I said this hero’s journey of actually feeling our own personal emotions as a way of helping the collective is really important. So we can only do so much in the external world, but because it’s an inside-out world that we live in, this beautiful concept and revolution, you know, that we are we experience the outside world from the internal state so if we can raise our vibrations our shift the negative low vibrations it does and it will have an external effect on the world and so um like I said it’s such an important um moment in time to actually start to soothe and regulate learn soothing tools and put them into practice so that we can shift this crisis that we’re having. Well, thank you so, so much, Joanna, for spending the time and for sharing with us. And anybody who’s interested can go to your website and find your class. And so thank you very, very much. And to all the audience, if you want to see what’s been presented before, if you want to see this again, if you want to see what upcoming things are going, just go to the world council for forward slash mind health, and you’ll be able to see that. So, so with that, there you go. Thank you, Emma, for putting that on the screen. And with that, I think we probably ought to goodbye. Is that right, Jerry? All right. Thank you. Bye. Bye.

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